Wednesday, April 13, 2011

5 Levels Of Courtship

In any and all courtships, there are five levels of non-verbal communication that occur. No matter what culture, society, or demographics that a person has, they will always follow these levels in their courtship. Let’s take a look at the five levels and what is involved with each one.

1. The first stage in courtship is getting attention. You want to let people know that you are single and looking. You do this through your posture, movements, facial expressions, clothing, and other forms of communication that are all non-verbal. You are getting attention in a very subtle way.

2. Your second stage is learning to read body language. After you have gotten attention, you need to start looking for positive signs from those around you. You are looking for who is responding to your signs asking for attention. Who recognizes your non-verbal cues and is in tune enough to show an interest in them? These are all things that you will see in the body language of the people that are around you. This can tell you a lot about whom to move on to the next stage of courtship with.

3. In the third stage, verbal communication is introduced. Once you know who is interested, you can start talking with them. However, this stage is also mostly centered on non-verbal communication. There are many things that can be implied by simply saying, “Hello” to someone. It is all in body language and tone of voice.

You can get a good understanding of how things are progressing by what is not being said. Pay close attention to the non-verbal signs that people are giving off. If you see cues that are saying the person is definitely interested, it is much easier to approach them and say Hello. It is also much less frightening and awkward this way.

4. The fourth stage of courtship involves physical touch. This stage can be very subtle and start out completely innocently. There could be an accidental brushing up against someone or an accidental touch. The response that is received is what will determine where this stage goes. If the person is not interested in taking things further, their non-verbal communication will clearly display this. They will give off clear signs that they have no interest in what is going on. There are different time frames for this stage to last. It is different for each individual couple and their unique situations.

5. The last stage in courtship involves adding intimacy and sex to the relationship. Once again, as with the first four levels, the non-verbal cues should be your guide in moving forward in this stage. Cuddling, gazing, stroking, kissing, holding hands and other ways to show and display affection will all present themselves during this stage.

If you do not see these signs from your partner, then you are not both ready to move into this stage. When people are intimate with each other, their body language will be very clear. However, their voice and tone will change as well. After all, tone of voice and how we speak can go a long way towards letting our partner know how interested we are in them and how much we desire them and the intimacy that is to follow.

Sunday, March 20, 2011

10 Commandents of Marriage

Acramax.com sent me this along other stuff. I found it interesting, entertainind as well as thought-provoking. Enjoy.
10 Commandments of Marriage
Commandment 1.

Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.

Commandment 2.

If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.

Commandment 3.

Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!

Commandment 4.

Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.

Commandment 5.

When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.

Commandment 6.

Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.

Commandment 7.

Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.

Commandment 8.

Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.

Commandment 9.

Every woman wants a man who is handsome, understanding, economical and a considerate lover, but again, the law allows only one husband.

Commandment 10.
Man is incomplete until he marries. After that, he is finished.

Monday, January 31, 2011

3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse, and How Did He/She Get That Way?

Nothing is worse than finding out from someone they saw your spouse with someone else. On top of the initial shock that hits you, it can be embarrassment and further damage your self-esteem. If you think your spouse is cheating on you, this article will help. First it will show you a pattern of how an affair starts. Then there are 3 signs of a cheating spouse you can look out for

How Someone Can Become a Cheating Spouse

There is a pattern a marriage can go through that can give you a better idea of how your spouse ended up cheating on you. An understanding of this means you can just about figure things out without having your cheating spouse explain first This pattern can happen over a period of time so noticing something earlier can also help if cheating hasn't occurred yet. Just fill in the blanks to see if it matches your situation.

First the marriage will start to go through some bumps in the road (lack of attention and needs). These bumps allow a spouse to have negative thoughts towards his/her spouse ( anger, jealousy, fear and even hatred). The spouse will allow these thoughts to control his/her actions (drinking, cussing, gambling, cheating on their spouse). All it takes is temptation from a sympathetic ear and it can spark an emotional affair to develop that can develop into a physical affair.

3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse

One way to detect a cheating spouse is by noticing some signs that are easy to detect. Look out for these signs to further substantiate your suspicions that your spouse might be cheating on you. There are many other signs to look for and you will be able to find them at the link I will provide later in this article.

1. The first sign is when your spouse claims he/she has new duties at work (Working late, dinner meetings, etc...) and your spouse will start working late or even going in earlier.
2. When you notice your spouse can't talk on the phone in front of you and takes the call in another room,
3. When your spouse is defensive or is giving vague answers about his/her activity or whereabouts during the day can indicate also a cheating spouse because your spouse is going out of his/her way to withhold information from you.

I hope this helps you answer some questions you have about signs of a cheating spouse. Of course there is many other things to figure out and if you are interested then go to the link at the end of this article. You have to give your spouse plenty of attention especially during hard times so he/she doesn't end up a cheating spouse. Also you want to watch out for signs of a cheating spouse because it will be the little things you miss that will give them away every time.

3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse and How He/She Get That Way is a look into negative self-talk and how it effects the marriage, a device used to explain how a marriage is still salvageable after an affair.

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