It takes two to Tango

Still on that programme , Tinsel (I love this soap). Continuing from the last scene here the man Regi said that it takes two to tango, it is so true. Remember he rebuked the waiter and said there are always two sides to every story. I agree with him. It takes two tango. The pregnant PA was as much at fault as him. No one used each other here, both are to blame for anything that occurs. Bothe should bear the full consequences and they are, believe me but the innocent bystander Regi’s wife is also suffering.
I brought this up because I hear a lot stories sometimes, when advertisity occurs, instead the people involved trying to solve the problem, they start looking for a scape goat. They look for whom to blame for their misfortune, forgetting that they were involved from the beginning. If a young lady gets pregnant for instance and assuming she comes from a rich home her father will call the police to arrest and detain the boy responsible instead of calling his daughter and hearing from her. The boy did not rape his daughter, they were friends, just that the father could not stomach the thought of a poor boy impregnating his precious daughter.
Or a situation a lady gets pregnant for a man and he abandons her. First he asks her whether she was not on pills and then he asks if he is the only boyfriend she has. Just because he feels that he's not ready for marriage, then he runs away and abandons the poor girl to suffer alone.
It is not good, it’s very bad. Remember the beginning, when things were moving on fine between you both. Now that things have turned sour both of you should sort it together.
Anyway over to tinsel, Regi answered the question of yesterday with my answers. The whole 3 of them, can you believe it. I don’t want to say it but I told you so. Anyway he’s having this entire problem because he is not an alpha male. Want to know who is an alpha male, want to be one, send me an email at ugojules@gmail.com with the subject line; free ebook-alpha male and I will send you the free ebook on how to be an alpha.
Till next time. You know I always love your comments.

Loving two at a Time

I watched my favorite soap opera on tv yesterday called Tinsel. After today’s edition , an argument of sorts ensued about the last scene. It goes like this. A married man, Regi had an affair with his PA who got pregnant. He was at a bar discussing what to do with her with the lady’s friend, because of the pregnant woman’s mental health problem.
Regi overheard a waiter giving advice to young man about his friend’s girlfriend. The young man said his best friend is dating a mentally deranged girl and wondered what to tell him, and the waiter (the love doctor of the show) advised him to tell his friend to run for his dear life.
Now this man, Reginald called him over and said it was insensitive and cruel, adding that there were two sides to every story; which made his drinking partner to observe that he was still in love with his pregnant mistress. It is an interesting soap, so check your DSTV guide for details of the time for Tinsel.
The argument was whether it is true that the man was in love with the pregnant lady. My take was that he wasn’t. He just cared for her
1. As a woman he dated before
2. A woman he claimed to have loved even if to get what he wanted
3. A woman carrying his baby
That was my reasons because I’ve watched many films and we usually discuss after. There have been several film where the fiancée refuses to go ahead with a a wedding another lady got pregnant for her man. The man will beg and beg and she will refuse, some end happily, others don’t end so happily.
But what I learned from all that is that men usually love the one they want to marry or the one they are married to. Any other one is a mistake (at least so they say), that they are silly to make and cause problems for the women folk. I also believe that one cannot be in love with two different people at the same time, at least not with the same intensity.
So unless, the man was forced to marry am woman (that still happen in this age?), or he has stopped loving his wife, another woman getting pregnant for him shouldn’t dissolve his marriage. He made the mistake, so he should take responsibility; he should be made to, for the woman and her child.
But his wife shouldn’t leave, especially if he apologies and explains and promises no to do such again. He will take proper care of his mistress and the child but not at the expense of his wife and children or fiancée as the case may be.
That is what I think, what of you? What do you think? What will you do if you are a woman and in such a position, will you leave your man? If you are planning to marry and someonelse gets pregnant for you will leave your love and marry the pregnant one?
I love to hear your comments.

I got the best answer in Yahoo Answers

Yes I really did. My answer was chosen among other answers. This is not the first time it is happening to me, but it’s been a while that happened. And I am so excited.

You can check the question:
What would be your best advice for LDRs? (Long distance relationships)?

Yeah that’s me. My picture. I ‘m a bomb aint I. Yeah. Anyway I won. So let me celebrate, pop the champagne, jump around, do a little victory dance as yahoo instructed me. Ha ha a ha.

You know I truly, sincerely, totally believe everything That I wrote there. Oh yeah I believe that love is be all and end all of any relationship. The reason I wrote that answer wasn’t because I wanted to be chosen as the best, no it was mainly because of two reasons
1- I really believe anyone in such situation can work things out, if only that’s what they want.
2- I am in one. Um-hu. I am in a long distance relation ship, so I know where it pinches most.

My dearest lives in... well we are two countries apart. It hurts but we agreed that it’s the best situation right now. Definitely we won’t continue like this, we’ll stat living together soon. As that is the ideal, couples should stay together always. But sometimes circumstances don’t always align well for everybody so that in the beginning you both need to adjust.

Like I wrote, with love as the number ingredient one you’ll make. Love is at the beginning, middle and end of any relationship. The end being in your ripe old age. As long as there is true love, there will be mutual respect and understanding between the two of you and then you are set.

Again remember to keep the flame of love alive all the time. Send eh text messages. Not just “how was your day text” but also “missing you text”. Also sexy messages are allowed make it steamy, hot.

Don’t miss the phone calls, very important. Use emails and chat online whenever possible. Let’s stop here for now.

Next time I’ll get into the pros and cons of LDR(Long-distance –relationships). Meanwhile what do you think? Is there any more factors that need to be added to make it work? Do you even think it can work? Your comments are highly appreciated. Thanks.

Ten tips for best internet dating

Want to get the best out of your internet dating? These are the tips that will help you make sure you don’t get burned engaging in the virtual world.

1 Attitude: Your attitude is everything. You need to have a good attitude about way you are doing. Believe you are the best there is, that you deserve every good thing that comes your way. You deserve the happiness that comes your way. With that attitude you will go far. Believe that that you are going to he best date there is in the virtual world.
2 The site: Be very careful the site(s) you choose to use for getting your date. This sis your life we re talking about. Choose site that is reputable, dedicated to helping their customers and have been around for long. If possible get a recommendation from a friend about the site before joining.
3 Profiling Site: This means that the site uses the answers you answer to match you with people of similar interests. Choose a site that uses psychometric profiling. With the basic questions that you are asked they’ll get you lots of match-ups.
4 Profile picture: Make your profile as interesting as possible. Use a good picture; you will get better results with a picture than without one. If you are worried that someone you know might see your picture, use a site that allows you to set your profile so that only people you choose can see you.
5 Free trials: Take advantage of free trials as many sites offer a free trial. Usually this does not allow you to actually contact the other person, but it does allow you to see your possible matches, and get a feel for how the site works.
6 Your Profile: This is where most people get it wrong. In addition to using the series of answers most sites give you to help you fill in your profile details, try to add more of your own. It really helps as it’ll differentiate you from so many otters that are using the same answers.
7 Security: This should be the first thing on your mind whenever you are engaging on any relationship so you don’t love your life. More so with internet dating you don’t see the person until much later. It is paramount that you give out certain details about yourself till you are sure it’s safe. Stuff like telephone numbers and home address shouldn’t be given easily.
8 Inform a friend: Whatever you are doing in the internet world, at least give a few details about it to your sister or brother or a trusted friend. Especially when you are going to meet a date you’ve seen online give the address to your friend. And meet with your date in an open place, come with own car, if possible be the one to pick the point of meet.
9 Perseverance: Perseverance is everything. You need to be patient; you can’t just go in today and expect to find a date tomorrow. It doesn’t work that way. You need to search, research and check every information you get thoroughly before making a move.
10 Honesty: Be truthful about the things you put in your profile. If you are not comfortable with the answer to a question, just say so, instead of giving the wrong answer or lying about anything. If things work out fine and you find a great date and when you start meeting, your date discovers that everything about you have been lies that will be the end of the relationship. Not to mention the damage to your reputation.

Women that Men want

Nowadays men want more from women. The notion that the woman’s place is in the kitchen is no loner valid in today’s world. Women contribute so much in today’s economy , they contribute as much as the men if not more. You’ll think men will not like that, on the contrary they do. Modern men like women who work. Men understand that our world have changed, its no longer leave it all for the men, he is the man of the house, no. Times have changed As Bob Dylan says, The times they are a changing. Ladies to get and hold the right guy for, you need to know what a man wants from you and give it to him. These are the characteristics of women that most men if not all men are looking for and will do everything to get.
1. Love: Love makes the world go round, love moves anybody even the strongest men. Men want women who would love them truly as to be able influence them through the power of love. Love is kind and is not jealous, neither is it boastful. So show love to your partner.
2. Respect: As they say respect is reciprocal, but some women don’t respect their men. Even if you are the one providing the bread, paying the house, paying the fees, lady you should give your man absolute 100% respect. Give him the respect he deserves, the one due him.
3. Communication: Men wants a woman they can communicate clearly with, not muffled communication, not misunderstood expression, or worst unexpressed feelings. You should men what you say and say what you mean. Be clear and uncomplicated in your discussions, use simple language and sentences.
4. Honesty: It is, have been and will always be the best policy. You should be totally honest with your guy especially in things pertaining to the relationship, that’ll guarantee it’ll work. When you are late from he shouldn’t have any trouble believing your story.
5. Trust: I will always tell you that without trust no relationship can last. A man wants a woman he can trust, absolutely and all times. A man needs a woman he can entrust his life, finances and family to with absolute confidence things will run smoothly even in his absence.
6. Independent: Of course a man wants to feel that he is there for your security and independence, but you have to be independent in certain areas, it really turns them on. When you ask for money to buy every single thing, he likes that. Imagine asking for money to buy a hanky or head tie.
7. Emotionally balance: Of course this is obvious, that way the man will feel more at ease e with you. Don’t be a nagging woman; no man likes a nagging woman. A man doesn’t want to be manipulated into a relationship. Don’t use tears, sex or too much talking to get him to do things for you. It doesn’t show your emotional maturity.
8. Intelligent: By this I don’t en you should get a PhD or your man to find you attractive. No that’s not what I’m talking about. I men someone is proactive, reliable, dynamic and creative. The days of the sole provider are gone. Now a man wants his woman to be as responsible as him.
9. Caring: Every woman should be caring, that is one of our great qualities as women. Men are caring at times especially when they want something (ok maybe not) but they need a woman who can show understanding and support to him every time.
10. Beautiful. Now isn’t that obvious. Ok before you say aha don’t buy that form for miss world yet, you might not win. Come on, you have to slim down real well; I hear some undergo surgery and remove ribs to look the right size for the competition ehew! I’m sure your man likes you the way you are. Moreover I’m talking of inner beauty. Again you try and maintain your beauty.
Ladies that’s really all it takes to attract and hold the right guy.