In any and all courtships, there are five levels of non-verbal communication that occur. No matter what culture, society, or demographics that a person has, they will always follow these levels in their courtship. Let’s take a look at the five levels and what is involved with each one.
1. The first stage in courtship is getting attention. You want to let people know that you are single and looking. You do this through your posture, movements, facial expressions, clothing, and other forms of communication that are all non-verbal. You are getting attention in a very subtle way.
2. Your second stage is learning to read body language. After you have gotten attention, you need to start looking for positive signs from those around you. You are looking for who is responding to your signs asking for attention. Who recognizes your non-verbal cues and is in tune enough to show an interest in them? These are all things that you will see in the body language of the people that are around you. This can tell you a lot about whom to move on to the next stage of courtship with.
3. In the third stage, verbal communication is introduced. Once you know who is interested, you can start talking with them. However, this stage is also mostly centered on non-verbal communication. There are many things that can be implied by simply saying, “Hello” to someone. It is all in body language and tone of voice.
You can get a good understanding of how things are progressing by what is not being said. Pay close attention to the non-verbal signs that people are giving off. If you see cues that are saying the person is definitely interested, it is much easier to approach them and say Hello. It is also much less frightening and awkward this way.
4. The fourth stage of courtship involves physical touch. This stage can be very subtle and start out completely innocently. There could be an accidental brushing up against someone or an accidental touch. The response that is received is what will determine where this stage goes. If the person is not interested in taking things further, their non-verbal communication will clearly display this. They will give off clear signs that they have no interest in what is going on. There are different time frames for this stage to last. It is different for each individual couple and their unique situations.
5. The last stage in courtship involves adding intimacy and sex to the relationship. Once again, as with the first four levels, the non-verbal cues should be your guide in moving forward in this stage. Cuddling, gazing, stroking, kissing, holding hands and other ways to show and display affection will all present themselves during this stage.
If you do not see these signs from your partner, then you are not both ready to move into this stage. When people are intimate with each other, their body language will be very clear. However, their voice and tone will change as well. After all, tone of voice and how we speak can go a long way towards letting our partner know how interested we are in them and how much we desire them and the intimacy that is to follow.
Wednesday, April 13, 2011
Sunday, March 20, 2011
10 Commandents of Marriage
Acramax.com sent me this along other stuff. I found it interesting, entertainind as well as thought-provoking. Enjoy.
10 Commandments of Marriage
Commandment 1.
Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.
Commandment 2.
If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.
Commandment 3.
Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!
Commandment 4.
Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.
Commandment 5.
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.
Commandment 6.
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.
Commandment 7.
Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.
Commandment 8.
Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.
Commandment 9.
Every woman wants a man who is handsome, understanding, economical and a considerate lover, but again, the law allows only one husband.
Commandment 10.
Man is incomplete until he marries. After that, he is finished.
10 Commandments of Marriage
Commandment 1.
Marriages are made in heaven. But so again, are thunder and lightning.
Commandment 2.
If you want your spouse to listen and pay strict attention to every word you say, talk in your sleep.
Commandment 3.
Marriage is grand -- and divorce is at least 100 grand!
Commandment 4.
Married life is very frustrating. In the first year of marriage, the man speaks and the woman listens. In the second year, the woman speaks and the man listens. In the third year, they both speak and the neighbors listen.
Commandment 5.
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: Either the car is new or the wife is.
Commandment 6.
Marriage is when a man and woman become as one; the trouble starts when they try to decide which one.
Commandment 7.
Before marriage, a man will lie awake all night thinking about something you said. After marriage, he will fall asleep before you finish talking.
Commandment 8.
Every man wants a wife who is beautiful, understanding, economical, and a good cook. But the law allows only one wife.
Commandment 9.
Every woman wants a man who is handsome, understanding, economical and a considerate lover, but again, the law allows only one husband.
Commandment 10.
Man is incomplete until he marries. After that, he is finished.
Monday, January 31, 2011
3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse, and How Did He/She Get That Way?
Nothing is worse than finding out from someone they saw your spouse with someone else. On top of the initial shock that hits you, it can be embarrassment and further damage your self-esteem. If you think your spouse is cheating on you, this article will help. First it will show you a pattern of how an affair starts. Then there are 3 signs of a cheating spouse you can look out for
How Someone Can Become a Cheating Spouse
There is a pattern a marriage can go through that can give you a better idea of how your spouse ended up cheating on you. An understanding of this means you can just about figure things out without having your cheating spouse explain first This pattern can happen over a period of time so noticing something earlier can also help if cheating hasn't occurred yet. Just fill in the blanks to see if it matches your situation.
First the marriage will start to go through some bumps in the road (lack of attention and needs). These bumps allow a spouse to have negative thoughts towards his/her spouse ( anger, jealousy, fear and even hatred). The spouse will allow these thoughts to control his/her actions (drinking, cussing, gambling, cheating on their spouse). All it takes is temptation from a sympathetic ear and it can spark an emotional affair to develop that can develop into a physical affair.
3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse
One way to detect a cheating spouse is by noticing some signs that are easy to detect. Look out for these signs to further substantiate your suspicions that your spouse might be cheating on you. There are many other signs to look for and you will be able to find them at the link I will provide later in this article.
1. The first sign is when your spouse claims he/she has new duties at work (Working late, dinner meetings, etc...) and your spouse will start working late or even going in earlier.
2. When you notice your spouse can't talk on the phone in front of you and takes the call in another room,
3. When your spouse is defensive or is giving vague answers about his/her activity or whereabouts during the day can indicate also a cheating spouse because your spouse is going out of his/her way to withhold information from you.
I hope this helps you answer some questions you have about signs of a cheating spouse. Of course there is many other things to figure out and if you are interested then go to the link at the end of this article. You have to give your spouse plenty of attention especially during hard times so he/she doesn't end up a cheating spouse. Also you want to watch out for signs of a cheating spouse because it will be the little things you miss that will give them away every time.
3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse and How He/She Get That Way is a look into negative self-talk and how it effects the marriage, a device used to explain how a marriage is still salvageable after an affair.
If you want to survive an affair then click to go here http://www.surviveinfedelityinmarriage.magicofmakingup-guide.com.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Roy_Holtz
How Someone Can Become a Cheating Spouse
There is a pattern a marriage can go through that can give you a better idea of how your spouse ended up cheating on you. An understanding of this means you can just about figure things out without having your cheating spouse explain first This pattern can happen over a period of time so noticing something earlier can also help if cheating hasn't occurred yet. Just fill in the blanks to see if it matches your situation.
First the marriage will start to go through some bumps in the road (lack of attention and needs). These bumps allow a spouse to have negative thoughts towards his/her spouse ( anger, jealousy, fear and even hatred). The spouse will allow these thoughts to control his/her actions (drinking, cussing, gambling, cheating on their spouse). All it takes is temptation from a sympathetic ear and it can spark an emotional affair to develop that can develop into a physical affair.
3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse
One way to detect a cheating spouse is by noticing some signs that are easy to detect. Look out for these signs to further substantiate your suspicions that your spouse might be cheating on you. There are many other signs to look for and you will be able to find them at the link I will provide later in this article.
1. The first sign is when your spouse claims he/she has new duties at work (Working late, dinner meetings, etc...) and your spouse will start working late or even going in earlier.
2. When you notice your spouse can't talk on the phone in front of you and takes the call in another room,
3. When your spouse is defensive or is giving vague answers about his/her activity or whereabouts during the day can indicate also a cheating spouse because your spouse is going out of his/her way to withhold information from you.
I hope this helps you answer some questions you have about signs of a cheating spouse. Of course there is many other things to figure out and if you are interested then go to the link at the end of this article. You have to give your spouse plenty of attention especially during hard times so he/she doesn't end up a cheating spouse. Also you want to watch out for signs of a cheating spouse because it will be the little things you miss that will give them away every time.
3 Signs of a Cheating Spouse and How He/She Get That Way is a look into negative self-talk and how it effects the marriage, a device used to explain how a marriage is still salvageable after an affair.
If you want to survive an affair then click to go here http://www.surviveinfedelityinmarriage.magicofmakingup-guide.com.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Roy_Holtz
Friday, November 19, 2010
Money in Relationship, huh?
Someone commented about my last article in a forum that got me thinking. It was the article about attracting women, remember. Check the last article, the title was 4 simple ways of attracting women. Well the friend in the forum mentioned that a man’s purse or pocket in this case is equally important. That it should even be the first.
Well I believe that there should be money in every relationship. I mean money solves a lot of problems in life. Men nowadays are getting married to women who are capable financially. Most ask this question at the beginning of a relationship - where she is working?
They say that way the girl won’t be a liability but an asset. Anyway I subscribe to the wife having something to do. Even if she is selling in a supermarket. Apart from the monetary gains to the family, it keeps her busy, makes her productive and other things. But that is the topic of another discussion.
Today we are focusing on how important money is to a relationship, lets say a new one. Guy just met girl. Should the woman check out the guy’s bank account, his assets, the blimp on him, his ride and mansion before saying yes. Should the man trace the girls family to be sure if her father is the head of a large conglomerate before he approaches her.
My take is that money is important in a relationship. Our main concern is how much importance should we attach to it? You can just leave your comments below. I like to hear what you think about this topic.
Meanwhile if you are planning to be rich, very rich, wealthy, it is not bad thing. In fact I encourage you, I say to anyone that wants to can be rich, it is a matter of proper monetary habits. You reduce your expenses, save some, invest it and you’ll be rich. There are two goods I now that can teach you how to do that. You can get it at http://www.moneyinayear.com/sq.html
Well I believe that there should be money in every relationship. I mean money solves a lot of problems in life. Men nowadays are getting married to women who are capable financially. Most ask this question at the beginning of a relationship - where she is working?
They say that way the girl won’t be a liability but an asset. Anyway I subscribe to the wife having something to do. Even if she is selling in a supermarket. Apart from the monetary gains to the family, it keeps her busy, makes her productive and other things. But that is the topic of another discussion.
Today we are focusing on how important money is to a relationship, lets say a new one. Guy just met girl. Should the woman check out the guy’s bank account, his assets, the blimp on him, his ride and mansion before saying yes. Should the man trace the girls family to be sure if her father is the head of a large conglomerate before he approaches her.
My take is that money is important in a relationship. Our main concern is how much importance should we attach to it? You can just leave your comments below. I like to hear what you think about this topic.
Meanwhile if you are planning to be rich, very rich, wealthy, it is not bad thing. In fact I encourage you, I say to anyone that wants to can be rich, it is a matter of proper monetary habits. You reduce your expenses, save some, invest it and you’ll be rich. There are two goods I now that can teach you how to do that. You can get it at http://www.moneyinayear.com/sq.html
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Thursday, November 4, 2010
How to make a Woman fall Madly in Love with you
I know you are probably wondering where your love life is going to as you have no woman in your life right now and you don’t know how to get one to like you, much less fall madly in love with you. Well I am here to tell you that it is easy to attract women.
First though you have to change your thinking about women. Yes it is your stereotypical thinking about women that is holding you from finding a way to capturing them. Women are difficult. I hear that all the time. And I tell you speaking from a woman’s point of view, it’s not true. Women are not difficult at all. You men stand at a distance and pass judgment on the womenfolk without giving them a chance to prove themselves.
Secondly change your thinking about yourself I mean your attitude about yourself. Stop the thinking pattern that you are unlucky with women. I tell you with that kind of thinking it will be difficult to attract any woman. So believe that you are a good-looking nice guy who can attract any woman he wants in his life.
Women are really simple creatures. They are fun to be with. They make great friends. They are loving, creative and interesting. That’s why they are mothers, sisters and wives. Therefore stop thinking that some women are off limits, you can’t just get close them tor talk to them not to talk of asking them out.
Thirdly look good. Don’t tell your self you are the ugliest person in the universe; remember number 2 above, that’s not a good attitude. Dress well, now I don’t mean buy all expensive clothes in the supermarket beside your house.
No that’s not what I mean. It is just that you are addressed the way you dress. Your dressing goes a long way to tell your story in the eyes of people particularly the opposite sex. In effect you have to look good, get a hair cut, and put on some nice clothes and you are on.
Fourth, get the required knowledge, the right words to say, the expressions, right here. Once you as a man understand all these things about a woman, then it would very to get them to fall in love with you. I assure you that you will get any woman you want, you are even sure of being laid if you do this.
First though you have to change your thinking about women. Yes it is your stereotypical thinking about women that is holding you from finding a way to capturing them. Women are difficult. I hear that all the time. And I tell you speaking from a woman’s point of view, it’s not true. Women are not difficult at all. You men stand at a distance and pass judgment on the womenfolk without giving them a chance to prove themselves.
Secondly change your thinking about yourself I mean your attitude about yourself. Stop the thinking pattern that you are unlucky with women. I tell you with that kind of thinking it will be difficult to attract any woman. So believe that you are a good-looking nice guy who can attract any woman he wants in his life.
Women are really simple creatures. They are fun to be with. They make great friends. They are loving, creative and interesting. That’s why they are mothers, sisters and wives. Therefore stop thinking that some women are off limits, you can’t just get close them tor talk to them not to talk of asking them out.
Thirdly look good. Don’t tell your self you are the ugliest person in the universe; remember number 2 above, that’s not a good attitude. Dress well, now I don’t mean buy all expensive clothes in the supermarket beside your house.
No that’s not what I mean. It is just that you are addressed the way you dress. Your dressing goes a long way to tell your story in the eyes of people particularly the opposite sex. In effect you have to look good, get a hair cut, and put on some nice clothes and you are on.
Fourth, get the required knowledge, the right words to say, the expressions, right here. Once you as a man understand all these things about a woman, then it would very to get them to fall in love with you. I assure you that you will get any woman you want, you are even sure of being laid if you do this.
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
It takes two to Tango
Still on that programme , Tinsel (I love this soap). Continuing from the last scene here the man Regi said that it takes two to tango, it is so true. Remember he rebuked the waiter and said there are always two sides to every story. I agree with him. It takes two tango. The pregnant PA was as much at fault as him. No one used each other here, both are to blame for anything that occurs. Bothe should bear the full consequences and they are, believe me but the innocent bystander Regi’s wife is also suffering.
I brought this up because I hear a lot stories sometimes, when advertisity occurs, instead the people involved trying to solve the problem, they start looking for a scape goat. They look for whom to blame for their misfortune, forgetting that they were involved from the beginning. If a young lady gets pregnant for instance and assuming she comes from a rich home her father will call the police to arrest and detain the boy responsible instead of calling his daughter and hearing from her. The boy did not rape his daughter, they were friends, just that the father could not stomach the thought of a poor boy impregnating his precious daughter.
Or a situation a lady gets pregnant for a man and he abandons her. First he asks her whether she was not on pills and then he asks if he is the only boyfriend she has. Just because he feels that he's not ready for marriage, then he runs away and abandons the poor girl to suffer alone.
It is not good, it’s very bad. Remember the beginning, when things were moving on fine between you both. Now that things have turned sour both of you should sort it together.
Anyway over to tinsel, Regi answered the question of yesterday with my answers. The whole 3 of them, can you believe it. I don’t want to say it but I told you so. Anyway he’s having this entire problem because he is not an alpha male. Want to know who is an alpha male, want to be one, send me an email at ugojules@gmail.com with the subject line; free ebook-alpha male and I will send you the free ebook on how to be an alpha.
Till next time. You know I always love your comments.
I brought this up because I hear a lot stories sometimes, when advertisity occurs, instead the people involved trying to solve the problem, they start looking for a scape goat. They look for whom to blame for their misfortune, forgetting that they were involved from the beginning. If a young lady gets pregnant for instance and assuming she comes from a rich home her father will call the police to arrest and detain the boy responsible instead of calling his daughter and hearing from her. The boy did not rape his daughter, they were friends, just that the father could not stomach the thought of a poor boy impregnating his precious daughter.
Or a situation a lady gets pregnant for a man and he abandons her. First he asks her whether she was not on pills and then he asks if he is the only boyfriend she has. Just because he feels that he's not ready for marriage, then he runs away and abandons the poor girl to suffer alone.
It is not good, it’s very bad. Remember the beginning, when things were moving on fine between you both. Now that things have turned sour both of you should sort it together.
Anyway over to tinsel, Regi answered the question of yesterday with my answers. The whole 3 of them, can you believe it. I don’t want to say it but I told you so. Anyway he’s having this entire problem because he is not an alpha male. Want to know who is an alpha male, want to be one, send me an email at ugojules@gmail.com with the subject line; free ebook-alpha male and I will send you the free ebook on how to be an alpha.
Till next time. You know I always love your comments.
Monday, November 1, 2010
Loving two at a Time
I watched my favorite soap opera on tv yesterday called Tinsel. After today’s edition , an argument of sorts ensued about the last scene. It goes like this. A married man, Regi had an affair with his PA who got pregnant. He was at a bar discussing what to do with her with the lady’s friend, because of the pregnant woman’s mental health problem.
Regi overheard a waiter giving advice to young man about his friend’s girlfriend. The young man said his best friend is dating a mentally deranged girl and wondered what to tell him, and the waiter (the love doctor of the show) advised him to tell his friend to run for his dear life.
Now this man, Reginald called him over and said it was insensitive and cruel, adding that there were two sides to every story; which made his drinking partner to observe that he was still in love with his pregnant mistress. It is an interesting soap, so check your DSTV guide for details of the time for Tinsel.
The argument was whether it is true that the man was in love with the pregnant lady. My take was that he wasn’t. He just cared for her
1. As a woman he dated before
2. A woman he claimed to have loved even if to get what he wanted
3. A woman carrying his baby
That was my reasons because I’ve watched many films and we usually discuss after. There have been several film where the fiancée refuses to go ahead with a a wedding another lady got pregnant for her man. The man will beg and beg and she will refuse, some end happily, others don’t end so happily.
But what I learned from all that is that men usually love the one they want to marry or the one they are married to. Any other one is a mistake (at least so they say), that they are silly to make and cause problems for the women folk. I also believe that one cannot be in love with two different people at the same time, at least not with the same intensity.
So unless, the man was forced to marry am woman (that still happen in this age?), or he has stopped loving his wife, another woman getting pregnant for him shouldn’t dissolve his marriage. He made the mistake, so he should take responsibility; he should be made to, for the woman and her child.
But his wife shouldn’t leave, especially if he apologies and explains and promises no to do such again. He will take proper care of his mistress and the child but not at the expense of his wife and children or fiancée as the case may be.
That is what I think, what of you? What do you think? What will you do if you are a woman and in such a position, will you leave your man? If you are planning to marry and someonelse gets pregnant for you will leave your love and marry the pregnant one?
I love to hear your comments.
Regi overheard a waiter giving advice to young man about his friend’s girlfriend. The young man said his best friend is dating a mentally deranged girl and wondered what to tell him, and the waiter (the love doctor of the show) advised him to tell his friend to run for his dear life.
Now this man, Reginald called him over and said it was insensitive and cruel, adding that there were two sides to every story; which made his drinking partner to observe that he was still in love with his pregnant mistress. It is an interesting soap, so check your DSTV guide for details of the time for Tinsel.
The argument was whether it is true that the man was in love with the pregnant lady. My take was that he wasn’t. He just cared for her
1. As a woman he dated before
2. A woman he claimed to have loved even if to get what he wanted
3. A woman carrying his baby
That was my reasons because I’ve watched many films and we usually discuss after. There have been several film where the fiancée refuses to go ahead with a a wedding another lady got pregnant for her man. The man will beg and beg and she will refuse, some end happily, others don’t end so happily.
But what I learned from all that is that men usually love the one they want to marry or the one they are married to. Any other one is a mistake (at least so they say), that they are silly to make and cause problems for the women folk. I also believe that one cannot be in love with two different people at the same time, at least not with the same intensity.
So unless, the man was forced to marry am woman (that still happen in this age?), or he has stopped loving his wife, another woman getting pregnant for him shouldn’t dissolve his marriage. He made the mistake, so he should take responsibility; he should be made to, for the woman and her child.
But his wife shouldn’t leave, especially if he apologies and explains and promises no to do such again. He will take proper care of his mistress and the child but not at the expense of his wife and children or fiancée as the case may be.
That is what I think, what of you? What do you think? What will you do if you are a woman and in such a position, will you leave your man? If you are planning to marry and someonelse gets pregnant for you will leave your love and marry the pregnant one?
I love to hear your comments.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
I got the best answer in Yahoo Answers
Yes I really did. My answer was chosen among other answers. This is not the first time it is happening to me, but it’s been a while that happened. And I am so excited.
You can check the question:
What would be your best advice for LDRs? (Long distance relationships)?
Yeah that’s me. My picture. I ‘m a bomb aint I. Yeah. Anyway I won. So let me celebrate, pop the champagne, jump around, do a little victory dance as yahoo instructed me. Ha ha a ha.
You know I truly, sincerely, totally believe everything That I wrote there. Oh yeah I believe that love is be all and end all of any relationship. The reason I wrote that answer wasn’t because I wanted to be chosen as the best, no it was mainly because of two reasons
1- I really believe anyone in such situation can work things out, if only that’s what they want.
2- I am in one. Um-hu. I am in a long distance relation ship, so I know where it pinches most.
My dearest lives in... well we are two countries apart. It hurts but we agreed that it’s the best situation right now. Definitely we won’t continue like this, we’ll stat living together soon. As that is the ideal, couples should stay together always. But sometimes circumstances don’t always align well for everybody so that in the beginning you both need to adjust.
Like I wrote, with love as the number ingredient one you’ll make. Love is at the beginning, middle and end of any relationship. The end being in your ripe old age. As long as there is true love, there will be mutual respect and understanding between the two of you and then you are set.
Again remember to keep the flame of love alive all the time. Send eh text messages. Not just “how was your day text” but also “missing you text”. Also sexy messages are allowed make it steamy, hot.
Don’t miss the phone calls, very important. Use emails and chat online whenever possible. Let’s stop here for now.
Next time I’ll get into the pros and cons of LDR(Long-distance –relationships). Meanwhile what do you think? Is there any more factors that need to be added to make it work? Do you even think it can work? Your comments are highly appreciated. Thanks.
You can check the question:
What would be your best advice for LDRs? (Long distance relationships)?
Yeah that’s me. My picture. I ‘m a bomb aint I. Yeah. Anyway I won. So let me celebrate, pop the champagne, jump around, do a little victory dance as yahoo instructed me. Ha ha a ha.
You know I truly, sincerely, totally believe everything That I wrote there. Oh yeah I believe that love is be all and end all of any relationship. The reason I wrote that answer wasn’t because I wanted to be chosen as the best, no it was mainly because of two reasons
1- I really believe anyone in such situation can work things out, if only that’s what they want.
2- I am in one. Um-hu. I am in a long distance relation ship, so I know where it pinches most.
My dearest lives in... well we are two countries apart. It hurts but we agreed that it’s the best situation right now. Definitely we won’t continue like this, we’ll stat living together soon. As that is the ideal, couples should stay together always. But sometimes circumstances don’t always align well for everybody so that in the beginning you both need to adjust.
Like I wrote, with love as the number ingredient one you’ll make. Love is at the beginning, middle and end of any relationship. The end being in your ripe old age. As long as there is true love, there will be mutual respect and understanding between the two of you and then you are set.
Again remember to keep the flame of love alive all the time. Send eh text messages. Not just “how was your day text” but also “missing you text”. Also sexy messages are allowed make it steamy, hot.
Don’t miss the phone calls, very important. Use emails and chat online whenever possible. Let’s stop here for now.
Next time I’ll get into the pros and cons of LDR(Long-distance –relationships). Meanwhile what do you think? Is there any more factors that need to be added to make it work? Do you even think it can work? Your comments are highly appreciated. Thanks.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
Ten tips for best internet dating
Want to get the best out of your internet dating? These are the tips that will help you make sure you don’t get burned engaging in the virtual world.
1 Attitude: Your attitude is everything. You need to have a good attitude about way you are doing. Believe you are the best there is, that you deserve every good thing that comes your way. You deserve the happiness that comes your way. With that attitude you will go far. Believe that that you are going to he best date there is in the virtual world.
2 The site: Be very careful the site(s) you choose to use for getting your date. This sis your life we re talking about. Choose site that is reputable, dedicated to helping their customers and have been around for long. If possible get a recommendation from a friend about the site before joining.
3 Profiling Site: This means that the site uses the answers you answer to match you with people of similar interests. Choose a site that uses psychometric profiling. With the basic questions that you are asked they’ll get you lots of match-ups.
4 Profile picture: Make your profile as interesting as possible. Use a good picture; you will get better results with a picture than without one. If you are worried that someone you know might see your picture, use a site that allows you to set your profile so that only people you choose can see you.
5 Free trials: Take advantage of free trials as many sites offer a free trial. Usually this does not allow you to actually contact the other person, but it does allow you to see your possible matches, and get a feel for how the site works.
6 Your Profile: This is where most people get it wrong. In addition to using the series of answers most sites give you to help you fill in your profile details, try to add more of your own. It really helps as it’ll differentiate you from so many otters that are using the same answers.
7 Security: This should be the first thing on your mind whenever you are engaging on any relationship so you don’t love your life. More so with internet dating you don’t see the person until much later. It is paramount that you give out certain details about yourself till you are sure it’s safe. Stuff like telephone numbers and home address shouldn’t be given easily.
8 Inform a friend: Whatever you are doing in the internet world, at least give a few details about it to your sister or brother or a trusted friend. Especially when you are going to meet a date you’ve seen online give the address to your friend. And meet with your date in an open place, come with own car, if possible be the one to pick the point of meet.
9 Perseverance: Perseverance is everything. You need to be patient; you can’t just go in today and expect to find a date tomorrow. It doesn’t work that way. You need to search, research and check every information you get thoroughly before making a move.
10 Honesty: Be truthful about the things you put in your profile. If you are not comfortable with the answer to a question, just say so, instead of giving the wrong answer or lying about anything. If things work out fine and you find a great date and when you start meeting, your date discovers that everything about you have been lies that will be the end of the relationship. Not to mention the damage to your reputation.
1 Attitude: Your attitude is everything. You need to have a good attitude about way you are doing. Believe you are the best there is, that you deserve every good thing that comes your way. You deserve the happiness that comes your way. With that attitude you will go far. Believe that that you are going to he best date there is in the virtual world.
2 The site: Be very careful the site(s) you choose to use for getting your date. This sis your life we re talking about. Choose site that is reputable, dedicated to helping their customers and have been around for long. If possible get a recommendation from a friend about the site before joining.
3 Profiling Site: This means that the site uses the answers you answer to match you with people of similar interests. Choose a site that uses psychometric profiling. With the basic questions that you are asked they’ll get you lots of match-ups.
4 Profile picture: Make your profile as interesting as possible. Use a good picture; you will get better results with a picture than without one. If you are worried that someone you know might see your picture, use a site that allows you to set your profile so that only people you choose can see you.
5 Free trials: Take advantage of free trials as many sites offer a free trial. Usually this does not allow you to actually contact the other person, but it does allow you to see your possible matches, and get a feel for how the site works.
6 Your Profile: This is where most people get it wrong. In addition to using the series of answers most sites give you to help you fill in your profile details, try to add more of your own. It really helps as it’ll differentiate you from so many otters that are using the same answers.
7 Security: This should be the first thing on your mind whenever you are engaging on any relationship so you don’t love your life. More so with internet dating you don’t see the person until much later. It is paramount that you give out certain details about yourself till you are sure it’s safe. Stuff like telephone numbers and home address shouldn’t be given easily.
8 Inform a friend: Whatever you are doing in the internet world, at least give a few details about it to your sister or brother or a trusted friend. Especially when you are going to meet a date you’ve seen online give the address to your friend. And meet with your date in an open place, come with own car, if possible be the one to pick the point of meet.
9 Perseverance: Perseverance is everything. You need to be patient; you can’t just go in today and expect to find a date tomorrow. It doesn’t work that way. You need to search, research and check every information you get thoroughly before making a move.
10 Honesty: Be truthful about the things you put in your profile. If you are not comfortable with the answer to a question, just say so, instead of giving the wrong answer or lying about anything. If things work out fine and you find a great date and when you start meeting, your date discovers that everything about you have been lies that will be the end of the relationship. Not to mention the damage to your reputation.
Monday, September 6, 2010
Women that Men want
Nowadays men want more from women. The notion that the woman’s place is in the kitchen is no loner valid in today’s world. Women contribute so much in today’s economy , they contribute as much as the men if not more. You’ll think men will not like that, on the contrary they do. Modern men like women who work. Men understand that our world have changed, its no longer leave it all for the men, he is the man of the house, no. Times have changed As Bob Dylan says, The times they are a changing. Ladies to get and hold the right guy for, you need to know what a man wants from you and give it to him. These are the characteristics of women that most men if not all men are looking for and will do everything to get.
1. Love: Love makes the world go round, love moves anybody even the strongest men. Men want women who would love them truly as to be able influence them through the power of love. Love is kind and is not jealous, neither is it boastful. So show love to your partner.
2. Respect: As they say respect is reciprocal, but some women don’t respect their men. Even if you are the one providing the bread, paying the house, paying the fees, lady you should give your man absolute 100% respect. Give him the respect he deserves, the one due him.
3. Communication: Men wants a woman they can communicate clearly with, not muffled communication, not misunderstood expression, or worst unexpressed feelings. You should men what you say and say what you mean. Be clear and uncomplicated in your discussions, use simple language and sentences.
4. Honesty: It is, have been and will always be the best policy. You should be totally honest with your guy especially in things pertaining to the relationship, that’ll guarantee it’ll work. When you are late from he shouldn’t have any trouble believing your story.
5. Trust: I will always tell you that without trust no relationship can last. A man wants a woman he can trust, absolutely and all times. A man needs a woman he can entrust his life, finances and family to with absolute confidence things will run smoothly even in his absence.
6. Independent: Of course a man wants to feel that he is there for your security and independence, but you have to be independent in certain areas, it really turns them on. When you ask for money to buy every single thing, he likes that. Imagine asking for money to buy a hanky or head tie.
7. Emotionally balance: Of course this is obvious, that way the man will feel more at ease e with you. Don’t be a nagging woman; no man likes a nagging woman. A man doesn’t want to be manipulated into a relationship. Don’t use tears, sex or too much talking to get him to do things for you. It doesn’t show your emotional maturity.
8. Intelligent: By this I don’t en you should get a PhD or your man to find you attractive. No that’s not what I’m talking about. I men someone is proactive, reliable, dynamic and creative. The days of the sole provider are gone. Now a man wants his woman to be as responsible as him.
9. Caring: Every woman should be caring, that is one of our great qualities as women. Men are caring at times especially when they want something (ok maybe not) but they need a woman who can show understanding and support to him every time.
10. Beautiful. Now isn’t that obvious. Ok before you say aha don’t buy that form for miss world yet, you might not win. Come on, you have to slim down real well; I hear some undergo surgery and remove ribs to look the right size for the competition ehew! I’m sure your man likes you the way you are. Moreover I’m talking of inner beauty. Again you try and maintain your beauty.
Ladies that’s really all it takes to attract and hold the right guy.
1. Love: Love makes the world go round, love moves anybody even the strongest men. Men want women who would love them truly as to be able influence them through the power of love. Love is kind and is not jealous, neither is it boastful. So show love to your partner.
2. Respect: As they say respect is reciprocal, but some women don’t respect their men. Even if you are the one providing the bread, paying the house, paying the fees, lady you should give your man absolute 100% respect. Give him the respect he deserves, the one due him.
3. Communication: Men wants a woman they can communicate clearly with, not muffled communication, not misunderstood expression, or worst unexpressed feelings. You should men what you say and say what you mean. Be clear and uncomplicated in your discussions, use simple language and sentences.
4. Honesty: It is, have been and will always be the best policy. You should be totally honest with your guy especially in things pertaining to the relationship, that’ll guarantee it’ll work. When you are late from he shouldn’t have any trouble believing your story.
5. Trust: I will always tell you that without trust no relationship can last. A man wants a woman he can trust, absolutely and all times. A man needs a woman he can entrust his life, finances and family to with absolute confidence things will run smoothly even in his absence.
6. Independent: Of course a man wants to feel that he is there for your security and independence, but you have to be independent in certain areas, it really turns them on. When you ask for money to buy every single thing, he likes that. Imagine asking for money to buy a hanky or head tie.
7. Emotionally balance: Of course this is obvious, that way the man will feel more at ease e with you. Don’t be a nagging woman; no man likes a nagging woman. A man doesn’t want to be manipulated into a relationship. Don’t use tears, sex or too much talking to get him to do things for you. It doesn’t show your emotional maturity.
8. Intelligent: By this I don’t en you should get a PhD or your man to find you attractive. No that’s not what I’m talking about. I men someone is proactive, reliable, dynamic and creative. The days of the sole provider are gone. Now a man wants his woman to be as responsible as him.
9. Caring: Every woman should be caring, that is one of our great qualities as women. Men are caring at times especially when they want something (ok maybe not) but they need a woman who can show understanding and support to him every time.
10. Beautiful. Now isn’t that obvious. Ok before you say aha don’t buy that form for miss world yet, you might not win. Come on, you have to slim down real well; I hear some undergo surgery and remove ribs to look the right size for the competition ehew! I’m sure your man likes you the way you are. Moreover I’m talking of inner beauty. Again you try and maintain your beauty.
Ladies that’s really all it takes to attract and hold the right guy.
Friday, August 20, 2010
The Encyclopedia of Dating
These are the ABC of dating, that is words related to dating and relationship. Feel free to add to the list.
A.Attraction
B.Baby
C.Cuddling
D.Desire
E.Eros
F.Flirt
G.Girl, Guy
H.Heart
I.Image
J.Joy
K.Kindhearted
L.Love
M.Men
P. Passion
R. Relationship
S. Smile
V. Virtual date
W. Women
A.Attraction
B.Baby
C.Cuddling
D.Desire
E.Eros
F.Flirt
G.Girl, Guy
H.Heart
I.Image
J.Joy
K.Kindhearted
L.Love
M.Men
P. Passion
R. Relationship
S. Smile
V. Virtual date
W. Women
Friday, August 6, 2010
7 Essentials Rules for Dating
Dating is a very serious game. It shouldn’t be taken lightly if it is to work out fine. Therefore there are some rules that will be taken into consideration while dating. For both sexes there are certain ways of behaving before and during the date. Here are some of the rules to keep in mind while dating.
1 The most effective way to introduce yourself is to be respectful and courteous. Keep your introduction tasteful. If that person is not interested, don’t beg linger or be insulting. Rather make a quick and graceful exit and move on.
2 Take the initiative and join a singles network. Chatting with fellow singles is a great way that people use to bring forth information about themselves and you can find someone with views, objectives and values similar or nearly similar to yours.
3 If you are in virtual dating-that is internet dating, you have to protect yourself and your privacy by not giving out personal information. Ok this could lead a cyber stalker to your door. Use your intuition and check references before agreeing to meet the person face to face. Always follow your gut instinct about a person.
4 When meeting with a date, meet in a public place. The place should be cozy enough for the two of you to talk. If you can, take your own car and don’t reveal all of your business on the first date. Law enforcements official suggest that you tell someone else where you are going and who you are meeting.
5 If you ask for the date, you should pick the tab. In the past, it was assumed that the guy always pay for the date. But today, things are quite different. Whoever asks for the date should also pick the tab. Some experts say a guy should pay for the first date regardless but after that anyone can pay.
6 If the relationship is getting serious, check and exchange different information. Tell the truth and ask about how many sexual partners he or she has. Not the details but you have to take precautions to avoid the risks of contacting diseases.
7 Lastly be you. Yes be yourself. Be consistent and honest about your intentions. Keep a positive attitudes, have a good outlook in life. And if you happen upon a dud date, don’t despair, just brush and get back into the groove.
1 The most effective way to introduce yourself is to be respectful and courteous. Keep your introduction tasteful. If that person is not interested, don’t beg linger or be insulting. Rather make a quick and graceful exit and move on.
2 Take the initiative and join a singles network. Chatting with fellow singles is a great way that people use to bring forth information about themselves and you can find someone with views, objectives and values similar or nearly similar to yours.
3 If you are in virtual dating-that is internet dating, you have to protect yourself and your privacy by not giving out personal information. Ok this could lead a cyber stalker to your door. Use your intuition and check references before agreeing to meet the person face to face. Always follow your gut instinct about a person.
4 When meeting with a date, meet in a public place. The place should be cozy enough for the two of you to talk. If you can, take your own car and don’t reveal all of your business on the first date. Law enforcements official suggest that you tell someone else where you are going and who you are meeting.
5 If you ask for the date, you should pick the tab. In the past, it was assumed that the guy always pay for the date. But today, things are quite different. Whoever asks for the date should also pick the tab. Some experts say a guy should pay for the first date regardless but after that anyone can pay.
6 If the relationship is getting serious, check and exchange different information. Tell the truth and ask about how many sexual partners he or she has. Not the details but you have to take precautions to avoid the risks of contacting diseases.
7 Lastly be you. Yes be yourself. Be consistent and honest about your intentions. Keep a positive attitudes, have a good outlook in life. And if you happen upon a dud date, don’t despair, just brush and get back into the groove.
Saturday, July 24, 2010
5 ways to get the best out of your relationship
To get the best out of any relationship is not very difficult. It requires time and attention to do it. It’s not difficult at all. These five tips will help you in any relationship you are in. You will get the best out of it whether it is in the family or office. You will be a better colleague, better husband, better wife, better mother, better father, better brother, better sister, better daughter and son. But especially those in romantic relationship it is okay these five qualities will go a long way to help you get the best out of that relationship. The five things you need are:
1. Love: I always maintain that love is the ultimate. With love anything is possible. Everybody likes to be loved and respected. So if you show love to your partner in the relationship the relationship will succeed.
2. Care: When you care a lot about your partner it will show. Your partner will in turn love you and care for you. As they say one good turn deserves another. Surprising your partner especially during special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries go a long way to show that you really care.
3. Attention: Knowing when your partner is not feeling well, is moody, or depressed shows you are paying a lot of attention to your partner. This will in turn be reciprocated by your partner. Buying gifts, cards and flowers for your partner will mean a lot to him or her.
4. Trust: Trust is a very essential element of any relationship. Without trust in any relationship, that relationship will not survive at all. Don’t cross-check every detail about your mate. Don’t go searching his or her emails or text messages, it creates suspicion and can only lead to chaos.
5. Understanding: You need to understand your partner and give him or her whatever he or she wants. Give your partner the support he or she wants whether in their jobs or school and you’ll be appreciates. Give your partner all the support he or she wants.
1. Love: I always maintain that love is the ultimate. With love anything is possible. Everybody likes to be loved and respected. So if you show love to your partner in the relationship the relationship will succeed.
2. Care: When you care a lot about your partner it will show. Your partner will in turn love you and care for you. As they say one good turn deserves another. Surprising your partner especially during special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries go a long way to show that you really care.
3. Attention: Knowing when your partner is not feeling well, is moody, or depressed shows you are paying a lot of attention to your partner. This will in turn be reciprocated by your partner. Buying gifts, cards and flowers for your partner will mean a lot to him or her.
4. Trust: Trust is a very essential element of any relationship. Without trust in any relationship, that relationship will not survive at all. Don’t cross-check every detail about your mate. Don’t go searching his or her emails or text messages, it creates suspicion and can only lead to chaos.
5. Understanding: You need to understand your partner and give him or her whatever he or she wants. Give your partner the support he or she wants whether in their jobs or school and you’ll be appreciates. Give your partner all the support he or she wants.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Why Men Can't Win
A reply from the men folk to their ladies counterpart. This is a continuation of the last article on this page. Enjoy
WELL, MEN CAN’T WIN
If you work too hard, there never time for her
If you don’t work hard enough, you are good-for-nothing;
If you has a boring job with low pay, its exploitation
If you do, you should find something better.
If you get a promotion ahead of her, its favoritism
If she does, its equal opportunity;
If you mention how nice she looks, its sexual harassment
If you keep quiet, its male indifference.
If you cry, you are a wimp
If you don’t, you are insensitive;
If you make a decision without consulting her, you are a chauvinist;
If she does without consulting you, she’s a liberated woman
If you’re proud of your achievements, you’re an egotist
If you’re not, you’re not ambitious;
If she has a headache, she’s tired
If you do, you don’t love her anymore.
What do you think?
WELL, MEN CAN’T WIN
If you work too hard, there never time for her
If you don’t work hard enough, you are good-for-nothing;
If you has a boring job with low pay, its exploitation
If you do, you should find something better.
If you get a promotion ahead of her, its favoritism
If she does, its equal opportunity;
If you mention how nice she looks, its sexual harassment
If you keep quiet, its male indifference.
If you cry, you are a wimp
If you don’t, you are insensitive;
If you make a decision without consulting her, you are a chauvinist;
If she does without consulting you, she’s a liberated woman
If you’re proud of your achievements, you’re an egotist
If you’re not, you’re not ambitious;
If she has a headache, she’s tired
If you do, you don’t love her anymore.
What do you think?
Monday, June 7, 2010
It's a Man's World
A friend sent me the article below and I thought of sharing it with you. Guys, is it true. What do think ladies? Post your comments below the article or write me at ugojules@gmail.com
If you treat him nicely, he says you are in love with him
If you don’t, he says you are proud;
If you dress nicely, he says you are trying to lure
If you don’t, he says you are old-fashioned.
If you argue with him, he says you are stubborn
If keep quiet, he says you have no brains;
If you are smarter than him, he’ll lose face
If he’s smarter than you, he is great.
If you don’t love him, he tries to possess you
If you love him, he will try to live you;
If you don’t make love with him, he says you don’t love him
If you do, he says you are cheap.
If you tell him your problem, he says you are troublesome
If you don’t, you don’t trust him;
If you scold him, you are like a nanny to him
If he scolds you, he cares for you.
If you break your promise, you cannot be trusted
If he breaks his, he’s forced to do so;
If you smoke, you are a bad girl
If he smokes, he is a gentleman.
If you do well in your exams, he says it’s luck
If he does well, it’s brain;
If hurt him, you are cruel
If he hurts you, you are too sensitive.
If you send this to guys, they’ll swear that it’s not true
If you don’t, they say you are selfish.
If you treat him nicely, he says you are in love with him
If you don’t, he says you are proud;
If you dress nicely, he says you are trying to lure
If you don’t, he says you are old-fashioned.
If you argue with him, he says you are stubborn
If keep quiet, he says you have no brains;
If you are smarter than him, he’ll lose face
If he’s smarter than you, he is great.
If you don’t love him, he tries to possess you
If you love him, he will try to live you;
If you don’t make love with him, he says you don’t love him
If you do, he says you are cheap.
If you tell him your problem, he says you are troublesome
If you don’t, you don’t trust him;
If you scold him, you are like a nanny to him
If he scolds you, he cares for you.
If you break your promise, you cannot be trusted
If he breaks his, he’s forced to do so;
If you smoke, you are a bad girl
If he smokes, he is a gentleman.
If you do well in your exams, he says it’s luck
If he does well, it’s brain;
If hurt him, you are cruel
If he hurts you, you are too sensitive.
If you send this to guys, they’ll swear that it’s not true
If you don’t, they say you are selfish.
Saturday, May 22, 2010
How to Easily Get Any Girl to Like and Want You? 7 Vital Tips Every Guy Should Read Right Away
. Be yourself:
There is nothing more confusing to a girl than to try and figure out whom the real you are. It is okay to dust yourself off and polish yourself up from time to time but forget the character makeover. If you want her to believe you have a lot going on, be sure you do. The true you will come out at some point in time and you will blow whatever measure of trust you have built up with this girl.
2. Be Respectful:
One of your most endearing qualities is the level of respect you show for the girl you are interested in. Tease her but don't be obnoxious about it. Don't call her derogatory names to show how macho you are and don't belittle her in front of your or her friends. You are trying to attract not detract.
3. Show Interest In Her:
It's fun to talk about yourself but when trying to get a girl to like you, keep the self talk to a minimum and ask about her. Your ulterior motive is to find commonalities you can talk about and share as well as what type of buttons she has. Give her the floor to reveal herself and if she is off the same mindset as you her ulterior motive will be to find out about you and she will give you the floor to talk about yourself.
4. Look for Commonalities:
Part of attracting a girl is having common things to share. It gives the two of you a clicking point. Be willing to explore her interests even if they are not yours. In return, she will be willing to explore your interests, no matter what they are.
5. Be Sincere:
Didn't Conrad Birdie sing about that in the movie "Bye, Bye Birdie?" Insincerity is like Swiss cheese. It is full of holes and anyone can see right through it. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Just don't be mean when you say it.
6. Accentuate Your Positives :
Everyone has elements about them that are better than others. Find your best assets and show them off in an unassuming manner. Put them on display for her to admire. Show her you have the right stuff, baby.
7. Be Full of Surprises:
The unexpected can sometimes return the expected. The element of surprise will sometimes eliminate the expected expectation. An impromptu picnic in the park might result in some hay play later on. A surprise once in a while will show you are thoughtful and considerate and are putting her first. If you throw in a surprise to often, it becomes the expected.
Now listen carefully-
What you are about to discover something most men will never know when it comes to attracting women. This is one thing which is an absolute must know for every man out there. You are about to discover an ultimate secret weapon which will make women chase you around like crazy Even If You Are Bald, Fat Or Ugly!.....Trust me....You don't want to miss this one. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page because it might be the most important message you ever read- Click Here
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=James_Apollo
There is nothing more confusing to a girl than to try and figure out whom the real you are. It is okay to dust yourself off and polish yourself up from time to time but forget the character makeover. If you want her to believe you have a lot going on, be sure you do. The true you will come out at some point in time and you will blow whatever measure of trust you have built up with this girl.
2. Be Respectful:
One of your most endearing qualities is the level of respect you show for the girl you are interested in. Tease her but don't be obnoxious about it. Don't call her derogatory names to show how macho you are and don't belittle her in front of your or her friends. You are trying to attract not detract.
3. Show Interest In Her:
It's fun to talk about yourself but when trying to get a girl to like you, keep the self talk to a minimum and ask about her. Your ulterior motive is to find commonalities you can talk about and share as well as what type of buttons she has. Give her the floor to reveal herself and if she is off the same mindset as you her ulterior motive will be to find out about you and she will give you the floor to talk about yourself.
4. Look for Commonalities:
Part of attracting a girl is having common things to share. It gives the two of you a clicking point. Be willing to explore her interests even if they are not yours. In return, she will be willing to explore your interests, no matter what they are.
5. Be Sincere:
Didn't Conrad Birdie sing about that in the movie "Bye, Bye Birdie?" Insincerity is like Swiss cheese. It is full of holes and anyone can see right through it. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Just don't be mean when you say it.
6. Accentuate Your Positives :
Everyone has elements about them that are better than others. Find your best assets and show them off in an unassuming manner. Put them on display for her to admire. Show her you have the right stuff, baby.
7. Be Full of Surprises:
The unexpected can sometimes return the expected. The element of surprise will sometimes eliminate the expected expectation. An impromptu picnic in the park might result in some hay play later on. A surprise once in a while will show you are thoughtful and considerate and are putting her first. If you throw in a surprise to often, it becomes the expected.
Now listen carefully-
What you are about to discover something most men will never know when it comes to attracting women. This is one thing which is an absolute must know for every man out there. You are about to discover an ultimate secret weapon which will make women chase you around like crazy Even If You Are Bald, Fat Or Ugly!.....Trust me....You don't want to miss this one. I strongly urge you to read everything on the next page because it might be the most important message you ever read- Click Here
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=James_Apollo
Wednesday, May 19, 2010
Is it Love Or Lust
It can be difficult to determine if what you are feeling for your loved one is actually love or lust. Many times a deep infatuation at the beginning of a relationship will feel like the real thing. But as time moves on, you find all you were looking for is different that what is actually there. Society at times will lead us to believe in the concept of love at first sight. What we feel at the onset of a relationship is actually nothing more than lust.
But what is lust? Well, in general lust is a physical attraction we have to another person that leads our desires to be with them. Often it stems for only physical portions. However, on a rare occurrence we can lust after someone for the knowledge that they posses. It is important to understand that when you lust after someone you are not necessarily lusting sex. Remember that lust is a physical attraction and nothing more. Having a sexual need is something very different.
Love in turn is deeper than a physical level. Often you will find that they two can be combined for the ultimate experience. When you love someone, you want what is truly in their best interest. It is a positive experience, where you begin to do what you can to help improve another persons life. You do not seek out the fights, and cause drama. If you have mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or even spite, what you are feeling is a copycat version of love. This in time will pass. When you love someone, it is with out restrictions. You want to see them as happy as they can be.
But what you are feeling is it love or lust. No one can tell you that for sure. When it comes from the heart, and it is genuine, there is a strong chance you have love. Step back from your relationship and answer the following. When you look over what you do for your partner, are you doing it to make them feel great, or because you them to give back to you?
Remember, lust and love are both unique emotions. While one is a physical desire the other is based on an emotional level. Trust your heart, and if it is right, things will fall into place. Be true to yourself, and love you first and foremost.
Jason has been in the business of dealing with people in their darkest hours for over 20 years. He runs a great blog with his life long partner and love of his life Paige. Don't let the title Get Ex Back mislead you. In addition to helping people get the love of their life back, the site is packed with insightful tips on making relationships work in the real world!
One of his latest posts can be found here Relationship Advice
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Jason_Walton
But what is lust? Well, in general lust is a physical attraction we have to another person that leads our desires to be with them. Often it stems for only physical portions. However, on a rare occurrence we can lust after someone for the knowledge that they posses. It is important to understand that when you lust after someone you are not necessarily lusting sex. Remember that lust is a physical attraction and nothing more. Having a sexual need is something very different.
Love in turn is deeper than a physical level. Often you will find that they two can be combined for the ultimate experience. When you love someone, you want what is truly in their best interest. It is a positive experience, where you begin to do what you can to help improve another persons life. You do not seek out the fights, and cause drama. If you have mistrust, jealousy, insecurity or even spite, what you are feeling is a copycat version of love. This in time will pass. When you love someone, it is with out restrictions. You want to see them as happy as they can be.
But what you are feeling is it love or lust. No one can tell you that for sure. When it comes from the heart, and it is genuine, there is a strong chance you have love. Step back from your relationship and answer the following. When you look over what you do for your partner, are you doing it to make them feel great, or because you them to give back to you?
Remember, lust and love are both unique emotions. While one is a physical desire the other is based on an emotional level. Trust your heart, and if it is right, things will fall into place. Be true to yourself, and love you first and foremost.
Jason has been in the business of dealing with people in their darkest hours for over 20 years. He runs a great blog with his life long partner and love of his life Paige. Don't let the title Get Ex Back mislead you. In addition to helping people get the love of their life back, the site is packed with insightful tips on making relationships work in the real world!
One of his latest posts can be found here Relationship Advice
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Saturday, May 8, 2010
How to know if she likes you –10 sure ways
You’ve met this beautiful girl and you wondering if you should take the plunge. This is because you don’t want to make a fool of yourself when you ask her for a date. Here are 10 signs that will tell you yes, go ahead and ask her out.
1 She makes eye contact: When she is always looking at you, it shows that she is interested in you. You know that a girl really like you by the look in her eyes, the frequency and constancy of her looks towards you.
2 She calls you for homework... a lot!!: This is a definite sign that she is into you. She needs your help in almost anything she is doing, whether it’s simple repairs at home or at the work place, with her homework or anything else.
3 She makes some movement while talking to you: Like she flips her hair when she's talking to you, she touches your arm when she talks to you; she is trying to tell you something with those actions.
4 She smiles at you: If a girl talks to you with a big smile, it is a gooood sign that she is waiting for you to take the plunge. Oh Yes, the twinkle in her eyes when she smiles at you is a good sign. Boy has she got a woah smile, and that smile is just for you.
5 She appreciates your kind of friends: If your girl likes and approves of your friends (not the bad ones) she’s really telling you she likes and approve of you. So what are you waiting for?
6 She is always around you: When you go to the movies with a bunch of your friends, she's almost always next to you. She happens to be in your neighbourhood at a certain time, she’s in your way as you are going for lunch. She likes you man.
7 She knows your WHOLE family's names (including your dog): That’s not all she even knows stuff about you like your birthday, and favourite color, screen name, favourite food, favourite band, favourite team, what music you like and
favourite sport.
8 Her friends know you: If the friends of the girl you are thinking of know most things about you, it can only mean that she’s been talking about you a lot to her friends. And that’s because she really likes you.
9 She is a friend: She advises to concentrate on your studies, work hard at your job, don’t do drugs, smoking is not good for your health and stuff like that. If she’s talking like this she cares about you and wants to really be with you.
10 She calls you: Of course she is always calling you, sometimes just to say hi. She calls to find out how you are doing, how was school today or how’s work if you are working. But she is always calling. Maybe you don’t even remember giving her your number but you appreciate the call nonetheless.
Ok, so you are seeing all these signs in a girl you feel strongly about and you are wondering whether… Stop reading, grab that phone and call her. She’s definitely into you and jumps at the idea of a date with you. So make that move today. Ta ra.
1 She makes eye contact: When she is always looking at you, it shows that she is interested in you. You know that a girl really like you by the look in her eyes, the frequency and constancy of her looks towards you.
2 She calls you for homework... a lot!!: This is a definite sign that she is into you. She needs your help in almost anything she is doing, whether it’s simple repairs at home or at the work place, with her homework or anything else.
3 She makes some movement while talking to you: Like she flips her hair when she's talking to you, she touches your arm when she talks to you; she is trying to tell you something with those actions.
4 She smiles at you: If a girl talks to you with a big smile, it is a gooood sign that she is waiting for you to take the plunge. Oh Yes, the twinkle in her eyes when she smiles at you is a good sign. Boy has she got a woah smile, and that smile is just for you.
5 She appreciates your kind of friends: If your girl likes and approves of your friends (not the bad ones) she’s really telling you she likes and approve of you. So what are you waiting for?
6 She is always around you: When you go to the movies with a bunch of your friends, she's almost always next to you. She happens to be in your neighbourhood at a certain time, she’s in your way as you are going for lunch. She likes you man.
7 She knows your WHOLE family's names (including your dog): That’s not all she even knows stuff about you like your birthday, and favourite color, screen name, favourite food, favourite band, favourite team, what music you like and
favourite sport.
8 Her friends know you: If the friends of the girl you are thinking of know most things about you, it can only mean that she’s been talking about you a lot to her friends. And that’s because she really likes you.
9 She is a friend: She advises to concentrate on your studies, work hard at your job, don’t do drugs, smoking is not good for your health and stuff like that. If she’s talking like this she cares about you and wants to really be with you.
10 She calls you: Of course she is always calling you, sometimes just to say hi. She calls to find out how you are doing, how was school today or how’s work if you are working. But she is always calling. Maybe you don’t even remember giving her your number but you appreciate the call nonetheless.
Ok, so you are seeing all these signs in a girl you feel strongly about and you are wondering whether… Stop reading, grab that phone and call her. She’s definitely into you and jumps at the idea of a date with you. So make that move today. Ta ra.
Saturday, May 1, 2010
How to know if he likes you –10 sure ways
There’s this hot guy in school, office, church or street that’s always starring at you. You don’t know if he really likes you. Don’t worry, use these signs below to be sure whether he really likes you or you were blocking his view when he was looking at something behind you? Here are ten sure ways to know.
1 He calls you: If the guy makes effort to get your number and your address, he’s a good candidate. When he now goes further to call you to find out how you are doing, he likes you. Sometimes he calls you to talk about nothing at all. When he goes further to visit you at home, he does like you.
2 He is there for you: If that guy is always there when you need him; you know always magically appearing down the street, when you just needed a hand to help you lift up that heavy burden, it is a good sign that he is into you. If you keep running into him at office corridors or outside you’re your classroom, he likes you.
3 He is a friend. He helps you solves problem at work, helps with your homework; forget your jacket? You can wear his; these are clear signs that he is interested in you. You can talk to him about a lot of stuff and he listens. A good sign.
4 Encourages you in your work: Whether it’s your school work, your Sunday school assignment or things at your place of work. He is always encouraging to be at your best he really likes you.
5 He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation: Guys usually don’t have good memory for little details. So when he makes effort to remember to give you presents, especially on your birthdays and any other day special to you; he’s into you.
6 You were invited by him to a group outing: Just because he always wants to be where you are, he wants to be seen with you, he wants to be near you. It’s a clear sign that he likes you.
7 He tells someone: If a guy tells his friends and maybe his sister or brother about you, he is very interested in you.
He wants to know more about you so he asks other people who you are and where you're from. Again when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.
8 The way he looks at you: He gives you a look that totally betrays his calm exterior. When he gives you a look that is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. That look is definitely of an interested person. And since he is looking at you, he is interested in you.
9 When he talks: When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, that’s a yes. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No."
10 He makes reasons to touch you: And I don't mean sexually. I mean casually-but-often. He puts his hand on your back to help guide you into the movie theater. He brushes a strand of hair out of your face. His foot "just happens" to touch yours under the table at a restaurant. He tells you that you have dirt on your nose when you know you don't. He rests his hand on your shoulder for no reason at all. Oh, boy. Does he ever like you!
When you see seven to eight of the above signs in that guy, make it easy on him when he musters the courage to ask you out. Or you can initiate the outing; you can tell him you really like him and would like to go out with him.
1 He calls you: If the guy makes effort to get your number and your address, he’s a good candidate. When he now goes further to call you to find out how you are doing, he likes you. Sometimes he calls you to talk about nothing at all. When he goes further to visit you at home, he does like you.
2 He is there for you: If that guy is always there when you need him; you know always magically appearing down the street, when you just needed a hand to help you lift up that heavy burden, it is a good sign that he is into you. If you keep running into him at office corridors or outside you’re your classroom, he likes you.
3 He is a friend. He helps you solves problem at work, helps with your homework; forget your jacket? You can wear his; these are clear signs that he is interested in you. You can talk to him about a lot of stuff and he listens. A good sign.
4 Encourages you in your work: Whether it’s your school work, your Sunday school assignment or things at your place of work. He is always encouraging to be at your best he really likes you.
5 He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation: Guys usually don’t have good memory for little details. So when he makes effort to remember to give you presents, especially on your birthdays and any other day special to you; he’s into you.
6 You were invited by him to a group outing: Just because he always wants to be where you are, he wants to be seen with you, he wants to be near you. It’s a clear sign that he likes you.
7 He tells someone: If a guy tells his friends and maybe his sister or brother about you, he is very interested in you.
He wants to know more about you so he asks other people who you are and where you're from. Again when he tells someone that he finds you attractive, he probably knows that it will get back to you. He's hoping it does.
8 The way he looks at you: He gives you a look that totally betrays his calm exterior. When he gives you a look that is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours. That look is definitely of an interested person. And since he is looking at you, he is interested in you.
9 When he talks: When he manages to get close enough to you, to ask you questions, that’s a yes. He appears to be listening and responds to what you say. He's moving in to the ultimate question, which is: "Are you seeing anyone." He would only ask this question if he wanted to date you, and he hopes the answer is "No."
10 He makes reasons to touch you: And I don't mean sexually. I mean casually-but-often. He puts his hand on your back to help guide you into the movie theater. He brushes a strand of hair out of your face. His foot "just happens" to touch yours under the table at a restaurant. He tells you that you have dirt on your nose when you know you don't. He rests his hand on your shoulder for no reason at all. Oh, boy. Does he ever like you!
When you see seven to eight of the above signs in that guy, make it easy on him when he musters the courage to ask you out. Or you can initiate the outing; you can tell him you really like him and would like to go out with him.
Friday, April 23, 2010
The Top Four Things Needed to Have a Healthy and Successful Relationship
If you have a strong and healthy relationship then you are going to succeed better in all areas of your life. Good relationships are the glue that helps you in life by bonding you to other people in your life and giving you more confidence in yourself. If you have a poor relationship it can equally affect you in a negative way. There are some simple pieces of advice that you should follow if you want to ensure that you have a healthy relationship.
There are four great things that are necessary for you to have a healthy and successful relationship.
1. The number one thing that you should remember when trying to have a healthy relationship is that you need to make sure that you are staying involved with your partner and his or her life. There is such a thing as too much peaceful coexistence. You may feel that you have a great life together but without good communication and knowing what is going on your partner's life, you will find that your relationship is not as healthy as you might think.
2. If you want to get through conflict then you need to make sure that you feel safe in expressing how you feel no matter if you disagree or not. This means that you should never feel afraid of your partner or afraid to tell him about the things that you disagree with. This should be a natural flow of communication between the two of you.
3. You may think that having outside relationships and lives that are separate from each other would be harmful to your relationship. However in fact the opposite is very true for this one. If you do not have outside interests and a life apart from one another then it is highly unlikely that your relationship will really work. You need some time apart and some interests that are your own to have a successful relationship.
4. The final and perhaps most important thing to remember overall with having a healthy and successful relationship is that you need to be able to communicate and have good communication skills. You will need to make sure that you talk about the things in life that are important. You should discuss everything and learn how to compromise to reach an agreement in all areas of life.
By understanding these four simple things you can ensure that you will have a life of bliss and happiness together.
Paige has raised two teenage girls who have flourished in life. She has a new website at http://www.homewaterfiltersystems.com/ which helps people find the best Reverse Osmosis Filter available.
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